But while an Asian guy’s table manners may be impeccable, other “gentlemanly” behaviours like opening the car door, helping a lady put on her jacket, etc, are not lessons that parents typically focused on teaching. The odd Jackie Chan movie as the exception, you hardly see the Asian guy as hunky, masculine star of the show.Whereas in the 19th century, Asian men were portrayed at the other extreme in the 19th century: sexually dangerous and desirable.Because this is engrained at such an early age, this may cause some Asian men to continue withholding emotion as they grow up.
Da Nang is a university town though and the level of English uptake is high there so i’m sure that’s a factor.
For example, at the dinner table, it is a blasphemy to serve yourself food first and immediately start eating. Unfortunately, we are influenced by what we see in the media whether we are conscious of it or not.
You serve the person you are dining with first, and always offer the last bite. Most depictions of Asian males in the popular media are not the same as their Caucasian counterparts.
Before you make any accusations of me making sweeping generalizations, note that my points here are completely biased according to my own sample size. White guys are much more laid back and are happy to carry on the conversation for another 30 minutes while the check is laying on the table; some are even willing to go dutch to further showcase their support towards gender equality. But, enzyme or no enzyme, don’t think this will deter an asian guy from schooling you in a drinking game though. Asian culture emphasizes family and collectivity, so it is quite the norm to take care of your parents while living under the same roof. There are many behaviours that are emphasized in a traditional asian culture.
Challenge him to a game of Pai Gow or Big 2 and he’ll drink you under the table. Also, living with a romantic partner pre-marriage is generally looked down upon, which is another reason why many asians wait until marriage to move out. With a big emphasis on “taking care” of those around you.